Comments on: Utah’s Moldy.

By: Emily the Utah transplant from the Midwest

Emily the Utah transplant from the Midwest — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:25:52 +0000

My sentiments exactly. Emily the Utah transplant from the Midwests last blog post..Gadget Lust

By: Alyson

Alyson — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 04:30:31 +0000

Holy cow! I TOTALLY relate. I grew up in CA, but moved to Utah several years after we married basically to get away from my family (long story). Since my husband grew up in Provo, it made sense to go to Utah. However, I couldn’t stand the feeling there. We ended up moving to Park City for a few years because at least it wasn’t so mormon-y, more like CA. We loved it there, however there was a lot of tension between members and non-members in that town. Those that weren’t in the church generally hated those that were and didn’t want us invading the one town they had to themselves and the church members spent a lot of time trying to convince them of how cool we are and not like the other “Utah mormons”.

Moving to New England was the best thing we did. I’m in LOVE with the church here. It’s such a non-judgmental atmosphere and the ward is like a true family. People here understand that not everyone has the ideal mormon life and accepts everyone’s circumstances.

Alysons last blog post..Nearly 5′3" and Growing

By: themotherboard

themotherboard — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 21:03:32 +0000

I just found your blog over on mormonmommyblogs. How have I not found you before now?? Your style is wonderful!

I have spent the better part of an hour reading you… and thinking “Man! This could SO be me!” I grew up in Utah too, and couldn’t leave fast enough. I was in Chicago for 10 years, while my husband was in Law school. I so did not want to move back to Utah for all the reasons you listed. LDS.Lawyer.White.Kids. Check. My husband pretty much brought me back here kicking and screaming.
I don’t fit the “utah mormon mold” nor do I want to. I hate the competition, the needing to look just right, dress just right… drive the right car. It’s ridiculous and its very hard.

Your blog is fantastic. So many similar situations, feelings, depression etc… It’s like we were twins separated at birth.

What a lucky find on my part to have found your blog!
And, I would have 100% been out dancing and shakin’ ma thang with you at Blogher (jealous!)– You are an inspiration!

By: Alison

Alison — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 17:52:10 +0000

Oh my! You nailed Utah right on the head with that post. I moved to Utah in 7th grade thanks to the Air Force. We lived in Layton and ended up staying through high school and then I went on to Utah State. We are NOT mormon and it was very very difficult spending those years there. My sister ended up converting for her husband though.

I moved after I divorced and my daughter was tiny, only 4 months old. I did not want her to grow up there. Mormon or not, the vainess, the competition, the fake niceyness of a lot of people there, I just couldn’t let her grow up there. We now live in Texas. I have tried to describe it to others and you just can’t. Well, actually, you can, you did a great job!

Utah mormons and out of state mormons are completely different. As I’m sure you have seen. And I love mormons like you, that have been there and done that lived their lives, maybe not to the best, but you’ve learned from it, can better relate to others, and don’t act holier than thou. Good for you! Actually any religion where someone has those life experiences helps so much.

By: Isabel

Isabel — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 16:51:45 +0000

I grew up in Utah County and now live very far away. There’s a reason.

I just had to delete an entire paragraph on “Utah sucks” etc.

And in high school, my friend and I called those people the “moldys”. I love that you use the same phrase. AWESOME.

Good luck kicking Utah’s ass.

By: Jeff

Jeff — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 03:09:30 +0000

Im the opposite in that I was raised LDS but Im no longer practicing and stopped while I was in Utah. Both sides seem to expect a lot. Your either with us or against us type mentality. Many people expect me to be a raving anti-mormon lunatic and never stick up for “them” because I left. I often wondered if other people felt that same way – I just want to be me and could care less what you do as long as your fair and loving. Thats really all that matters.

By: Eve

Eve — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 17:47:45 +0000

I know people will be offended when I say this, but I hate Utah. I’ve always hated it. My parents expected me to go to school there and I refused. At a very young age while visiting cousins I could sense what went on there. Like you just pointed out. The only thing that saved me from going crazy rebel in highschool was that I WAS DIFFERENT. I was one out of maybe 9 in my highschool. I had very few “practicing” friends. And I enjoyed being the weird Mormon. Anyway, don’t let them drag you down. And I understand the sadness in missing your husband. I was away from mine for 28 days this summer. It sucked more than I thought it could.
Good Luck.

By: Marty

Marty — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 03:56:44 +0000

Hey!!! Your last email to me went to my spam folder and I didn’t get to read it! I wanna hang out and have the day off tomorrow!

By: AbsolutelyBananas

AbsolutelyBananas — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 08:12:59 +0000

Wow, great post. I love the honesty of it. You’ll do ok, little friend. It takes people feeling like outsiders and deciding to do something about it to BREAK the mold… to make the next round of outsiders feel welcome. I don’t know if that last sentence made any sense… probably not. But I DO believe that through discomfort can come greater self-awareness and growth. Best of luck to you! Hang in there… you’ve always got us internet pals!

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 08:03:54 +0000

Never been to Utah but I know the feeling of a hometown and being “outsiders”. Sucks.

(((HUGS))) to you missin’ your hubs too It sucks, but the days will fly eventually, I promise. Then you’ll be write back in the great state of Indy (hehe) and your husband will be gratin’ nerves at some point