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January 12, 2009

Growing up: Lawyers and doctors are rich!

Pre-Law School: (stars in my eyes) In three years my husband is going to be smart and rich!

Second year of law school: Huh, well this has to be worth it eventually right?

Four months away from graduation from Law School: Meh.

I admit to being just as disillusioned about law school and the prospects of my husband being an attorney as some people are about marriage being a romantic fun ride of never ending happiness. (P.S. If you’re new here, I don’t love newlyweds. They induce my gag reflex hardcore.)

Here we are, four months away from graduation and while three years ago I thought I’d be picking between a Cadillac or a Lexus, at this point I’m left deciding between Ramen or Mac & Cheese for dinner.

I don’t regret Cody going to law school. He enjoys it and he’s damn good at it.

We’re still married. We still like each other. We’re actually never around each other enough to get sick of each other.

My illusions about a rich lawyer husband are smashed.

We have so much else to look forward to besides fast cars and diamond shoes. Like massive graduate school debt and a whole lifetime (well, 30 years) to pay it off. See that? How I made that a glass half full thing?

Law school has really helped my cynicism.

So hit me, let’s be optimistic about those pessimistic things in our lives.

Let me give you another example,

Cody’s gone at school all the time, but I never have to share the TV.

Your turn.

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Oh, Lord, newlyweds make me want to claw my eyes out while running as fast as I can in the opposite direction. What’s with the touching? And the kissing? And the pet names? GAG.

Hm. The bus ride to school makes me want to puke what with the smells and the overactive heating system, but at least I save money on gas.

Marins last blog post..The Appeal of Thin

You see, I had to go through law school with a husband and children as well. It sucked. And now we have heavy student loans to pay back…and hubby’s having trouble working due to some mental health issues…so we’re pretty much screwed.

I knew I should have gone to medical school and left him home with the kids.

Oh, well, at least we still have Paris. Wait, no, we don’t. crap.

Rheas last blog post..Ghost Mermaids want to Possess Your Soul

So my uterus isn’t cooperating and refuses to allow another cute little one in. But I’ve lost 18 lbs in the last 3 months, and I look good in the new clothes I just got for Christmas!

ummm.. lmao. thank you very much you stinker
I’m going to give you the biggest hug at BlissDom.

Let’s see.

My dog eating my husband’s socks means less laundry for me, right? right.

The economy blows and has left me with few freelance jobs, but at least I don’t have to get dressed everyday.

Newlyweds – gag. When I was first married, a church leader came up to me and expressed concern that my husband and I weren’t affectionate enough in public. “Other couples hold hands and kiss and cuddle during church. You guys don’t do a thing.” Five years later and I’m still annoyed he thought this meant a good marriage.

Amelias last blog post..The holidays lasted a long time

I’m unemployed because I moved somewhere after finishing up school, and now I’m disgustingly broke and don’t have money to pay off the loans.
But at least I get to spend all day at home with the boyfriend? (Who’s getting sick of me already!)

Megs last blog post..(Mis)Adventures of ActionKat*

My husband is a chef. Four years ago, I thought “Oh! You need to go back to school!” and when he said he wanted to be a chef, I was all “money! glory! fun!” and now $36,000 later (for two years of schooling) he’s working 13 hours a day. He should have gone to school to be a doctor!

MrsMoneys last blog post..Sunday Link Love!

Post lawschool working too much has kept me from finding a husband and reproducing, but my loans are getting paid off efficiently.

It gets better!

Bridges last blog post..Spiralling

My husband is working 80 hours a week, however, his extra work is for my trip to London in May! He really is amazing!

Kates last blog post..Dairy and Me

I have complete nerds or pansies constantly pursuing me, but at least I am not completely revolting to the opposite sex.

Emily the Utah transplant from the Midwests last blog post..Boy Vey

Um, I took a semester off from school to get ahold of my bipolar, which meant leaving my apartment in Manhattan and my boyfriend in Brooklyn to go live for free in Denver…So now we get to have dramatic airport scenes just like the ones in Love Actually? That’s a perk, right? And I get to snowboard a lot more.

Also, Amelia, can I just say how hysterical I think it is that it somehow became a problem that you weren’t making out in church. Wow.

Yeah, wait till you start paying the loans. We just started. And it’s awesome, because we were looking for a place to put an extra $1,100/month. Even better no one will consolidate because of the economy. Hip hip hooray!

Seriously though, my husband is SO happy being a lawyer and that is totally worth it.

Sarahs last blog post..Tell me somethin’ goooood … Woow Woow*

Let me help you out. I am an accountant and we are in the middle of doing quarterly payroll taxes. I have 3 clients who are lawyers. They pay, on average, $100,000 a year, just on payroll taxes. And who are their employees? Themselves and their wives. Hang in there. I have figured out I am in the wrong business!

Camilles last blog post..I’m tired

My husband is working 2 jobs at once (for the same company), so he doesn’t get home until late and then gets online to work some more after the kids go to bed. But, the new job means he has to go to Australia 3 times this year – and that he should have enough frequent flyer miles for me fly in Business class for free on his 3rd trip!

My washer broke over the weekend. So I guess that means I don’t have to do laundry, right?

Olivias last blog post..You Can Now Refer To Me As ‘Master Olivia CPA’

My husband is in school to be a chiropractor (4 year program!)and I feel your pain on the never seeing him and massive student loans.

I get free adjustments even if they are done by students!

Wait, but I’m a lawyer who makes lots of money!

Oh, I don’t practice law. That’s right.

My mother always tries to tell me that I should practice law instead of doing what I do. I try to explain to her that the median salary for a lawyer out of law school who does NOT work for a big firm is in the $55-70K range, and she just won’t believe it.

I have friends who have been out for eight years who are still making $35K.

Cody’ll find a good job, though. Just think litigation instead of transactional. And you’ll have your Lexus soon enough.

Unless you really want that second kid!

Avitables last blog post..People are greedy, obnoxious, and retarded

I did just this on my 38th 30th birthday last week. See CommentLuv for link…

Keri (Auburn Gal Always)s last blog post..Don’t hate me…

Well, I guess my html for striking out my actual age didn’t work. crappit!

Keri (Auburn Gal Always)s last blog post..Don’t hate me…

My husband has enough college and graduate school debt that we’ll have to die to get rid of it, and, amazingly enough, for a degree that he’ll never ever freaking use…E.V.E.R…BUT, at least if we’re trying to fly somewhere and the plane needs an oil change, we’re golden.

YAY us.

Anissa@hope4peytons last blog post..and the house goes to….(guess who watched the Golden Globes last night)

Holy crap! We must think alike because I was going to say that it sucks that my husband’s been working for 15 hours a day lately, but at least I get the tv to myself.

Alyson (New England Living)s last blog post..New York City? 65 Degrees? In December?! Oh yeah, I’m so there.

I secretly love that I get the TV, laptop (internet without judging my online friends), and kitchen to myself when my husband is at class.

Although, today when I wrote a check to the university with so many numbers I had to try three times to fit it on the check, I was a little sad.

And he still has his PhD to get.

Oy.

ashleys last blog post..A Few Letters.

Boyfriend & I have been apart for 3 weeks (me in the states, him not = no phone calls and very few emails), except a quick day and 1/2 in between for New Years…

BUT…
1. I got a TON of organizing & cleaning done at home that wouldn’t have happened with him here.
2. I had to work last weekend, but didn’t have to miss out on time with him to do so.
2. I now speak BRAZILIAN (thanks to you, Casey!)…and as of tomorrow, he will too, because he landed safely back on American soil today and I will be seeing him in T-4 hours (squeeeeeee!!!)

Our adoption may have fallen through, but hey, that’s extra months of “me time,” right?

My husbands headed back to school…My bod has issues… but because “now’s not the right time” means that I get to have more “bath time” and avoid my issues!

Erikas last blog post..YUCK! My Adventure of the week

My “new” microwave is dead and the company won’t replace it.

But I get to go shopping!

Erins last blog post..Music-less

My husband is also gone at school all day and I don’t have to share the remote either.

I just started working graveyards. Noah’s take on it: He misses having someone else in bed with him but LOVES that he gets to sleep diagonally now. I figure, I didn’t sleep anyway, so why not just work?

Mrs. Wilsons last blog post..It’s all in my head

I have to travel a lot for work, which sometimes sucks when I have to come home to a messy house, kids who have lived on tater tots and chicken nuggets and a pile of laundry taller than my 5 year old. But then again, I get to eat meals with grown ups and not have to cut someone’s meat.

Oh, and newlyweds? Make me gag as well. We were never like that. Wonder what that means.

Mrs. Wilsons last blog post..It’s all in my head

Ahem. Am kind of a newlywed. Am trying not to be offended. Though we aren’t lovey dovey, so I’d like to think you wouldn’t find us nauseating.

I have so much credit card debt I can hardly make my minimum payments, which is not great. But it actually worked to my advantage when the woman who stole my wallet (the day after Christmas) decided to take out a credit card in my name, and was denied.

Not because the block on my social security card had gone through, but because I am really REALLY really in debt.

Overflowing Brains last blog post..An Open Letter to my Identity Thief

It’s been about 2 1/2 months since my husband found out he passed the bar exam, and he’s still looking for a lawyer job. The funny thing is, most entry-level attorney positions earn LESS (we’re talking $10K-20K less) than his current data analyst position with just a Bachelor’s degree in Computer Science.

On the bright side, with his computer job, he can work from home a couple days a week… which saves us about $50/month in gas money. Which is just going towards paying back his loans anyway, but oh well.

Melissas last blog post..delurkification

The month of Jan in my house is known as “National Sandwich Month”

When you work in the music business the month of Jan/Feb suck really badly.

But I don’t have to cook big dinners right?

Britts last blog post..Winner Winner Chicken Dinner

I graduated from law school, heavily in debt & was “let go” by my firm the Monday after Christmas….

but I’ve been able to catch up on the last season of ER in the meantime.

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So I though I would be married with a couple of kids by now, but instead I get to party until 3 am and crash at friends place over the weekend, without having to notify anyone about my whereabouts. And if in the mood I can make out with random guy at the bar. Fun to be me huh? How’s that for silver lining?

I have a giant ass, but recently read a news story that this is a sign, on an evolutionary scale, of a healthy woman.

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amen to that progression. my husband’s a new doctor. I remember pre-med school, med school, residency…and now what?? will we ever be out of debt…ever?

at least our healthcare costs are usually “comp-ed”

I ate all 4 laffy taffy left in the kids candy bucket just now. But, hey! At least my kids won’t eat them and get cavities, and they aren’t there for me to think about and lust after tomorrow! ha. snort.

Kristins last blog post..knock, knock…WHO’S THERE?

Wow. I have nothing to say. Not that my life is any better than anyone else’s who has posted but it feels a little too “Maury Povich” in here for me.
Happiness is…la la la la la…

you don’t have to share the wii or smell boy farts.

oh you meant me. no job? BLISSDOM.

heather…s last blog post..Maddie’s Methane

My car window got smashed by thieves. But at least I don’t have to wash those dirty sox they stole with my gym bag!

Has anyone pointed out yet that y’all might be so broke, he’ll only have one suit and two shirts to wear to the office? Cuz that will TOTALLY cut down on laundry.

Zoeyjanes last blog post..On Drawing the Line

Newlyweds might as well be loved-up teens – they act about the same, i.e. sickeningly!

I suppose this is a bad time to mention that the average annual salary for Indiana attorneys is in the mid 30s?

So, for every $100K+ attorney out there living the high life, there another slogging away as a < $20K hive worker.

As a lawyer married to a med student, I’m familiar with the harsh reality of student loans, never seeing your spouse, and disappointing salaries.
But you should see how clean our house remains when neither of us is there longer than 11 pm – 6 am!

Lyndsays last blog post..Hey Baby, It’s Christmas All Over Again.

One of my brothers is an attorney. He’s very good at it but it hasn’t made him rich…yet. I hate to say it but the long hours away from home will continue after law school as well. And I guess it’s quite common for the cynicism to be shared among the family, like my sis-in-law learned.

Wait…I was supposed to cheer you up! At least you and Cody aren’t newlyweds.

Bennies last blog post..

they don’t even give you a clear picture of what life is REALLY going to be like, do they? my dad is a doctor and my stepdad is a lawyer…so i made sure to marry neither…but as it turns out, people in computers who have important jobs are never home for dinner either. hmph.

alis last blog post..my ali-never-gets-hit-on reputation remains and a contest

I lost my hearing, but night noises no longer keep me awake!

Amys last blog post..Think I’m an angel

Aw, Casey, welcome to the lawyer’s wives club. I’m still waiting for my BMW too. As for the bright side?

Private sector legal jobs are mostly recession proof. Small businesses, especially, get much more litigious when every dollar counts.

Amandas last blog post..On Mr. Rogers

Uhhhh, I can’t get my kid potty trained but that means a cheaper water bill…. right.

Domestic Goddess (In Training)s last blog post..Adoption’s not an option

My 17 month old daughter is getting over herpangina (like hand/foot/mouth virus but just the mouth). She didn’t sleep for more than 1 hour at a time for several days straight and cried inconsolably for three days.

But hey, I am getting back in training for when my son is born in May! I tried to remember that as I was sleeping on the floor in her room (on my side, like a good pregnant woman).

Yeah, that’s why I stopped practicing law.
Um, I’ve got nothing.

Kristins last blog post..The post where I vent

My husband just finished 4 years of med school and 3 years of a medical residency and I still can’t afford a home that fits my family (I had your vision too). But we finally can replace our 1987 4-Runner with a vehicle that has 4 doors (no more putting kids in and out through the window). And with the economy tanking our $170,000 in student loans is getting a better interest rate! Woo Hoo!

oh, yes. My in-laws seem to have similar ideas about medical school as you-three-years-ago did. It is freaking hard work, and I’m SURE my husband has spent a lot of time wondering whether it’s worth putting up with Grumpy Wife two thirds of the time. But you’re right – if it’s what you love, it’s what you love. Your husband is lucky to have you. I tell myself that maybe I can watch TV again someday..

Lauras last blog post..New Chair

I havent done law but I did my MBA with a full time job. Initially it was tough but as MBA is more job oriented and practical subject so it helped a lot in my work as well.

Afaques last blog post..We Condemn War

um… hmm…

Being infertile has meant I have gotten to see actual photos of my insides, which I think is immensely exciting. It has also introduced me to the joys of high deductible policies in conjunction with hsa accounts. I don’t mean that sarcastically. They are WAY less expensive for us, and the HSA money can roll over from year to year, making it much less stressful.

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My new puppy pees and poops on the floor, but at least he can’t whine.

Christys last blog post..I suck

This veil of flub keeps me warm. And I am semi-grateful for it.

OK, not really.

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Oooh! I have a new one!

My dad just found out he has a large cancerous tumor on his pancreas and probably 3-6 months to live.

But at least now I get to quit my sucky job to move back to the midwest to take care of him!

My sister is a lawyer, my best friend is a district Attorney. They’re doing pretty good, but honestly we make more money than them. They have a lot of debt to pay off and it’s stressful work. If your husband went into it because he wanted to be rich it was the wrong reason. Do what you love and you’ll be happy. Sure you’ll have more money eventually but is it worth it? Sadly it’s going to take you both working to buy those diamond studded shoes, life’s expensive!

But you could look at in a postive manner, you miss him because he’s gone all the time. Missing you sex is good sex always.

chickenlivers last blog post..Casting Call

I have one: My aunt just found out she has just weeks to live. On the upside, my brother and I are FINALLY making that long overdue visit to see all our family in the midwest. 8 years overdue.
Or how about this one. You may appreciate it.
We’re not sure we will ever have another child…but at least we’ll be able to afford swinging vacations with our small family.

Hollys last blog post..Not Exactly Baywatch

My husband works all the time as an auctioneer, but I get to stay home with my daughter and attempt to write a novel.

Also, I hate newlyweds. The worst are the sort that try to give out marriage advice two days, two weeks, two months or even two years into it.

Amandas last blog post..Peter Butter??

Isn’t that the truth?
I love it.

Law School = Highly Overrated. My husband loved his law school experience. Me, it was more like the dentist drilling my teeth without the drugs every day. So we quickly decided that only one of us practices the stuff for a living, and I think that was an excellent decision for the success of our marriage. I love my brilliant lawyer! As for a rich lawyer…maybe when their 70 years old. So prepare thyself to pay thy bills now!

I loved reading this post. I, too, believed law school would be different than it actually is. My husband graduated last May, passed the bar in October and barely got a statie prosecutor position barely making enough to keep us off state benefits. It’s a bad time to be a lawyer. Good luck to you and your husband. By the way, I’m a fellow church member, who after reading your conversion story, felt strangely like it was my own. I married a Mormon then became one myself. Weird. Anyway, it’s good to know church members are everywhere. We’re actually in the same stake. Indy? Right? We just moved around here so we’re still figuring out all the demographics. Have a good one.

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