Comments on: about being a panda in a rabbit world.

By: moosh in indy. » panda perfect.

moosh in indy. » panda perfect. — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:38:12 +0000

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By: Kris

Kris — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 22:31:25 +0000

I’m a new reader of your blog and I had to comment on this post. I had my first child last year. The pregnancy was an absolute nightmare and included ruptured ear drums and veins in the eye (leaving me half-blind for 6 weeks), constant barfing, and being induced at 33 weeks because my blood pressure was OVER stroke-out levels. Despite this, I still wanted another baby.

This year we discovered that the pregnancy tore a hole in my heart, and not only will I be on blood pressure medication for the rest of my life (I am 22), if I get pregnant again I have a 70-80% chance of dying. So I was sterilized, except we just found out the procedure didn’t work and now I’m not sure what we’ll do.

As a Mormon, I totally, totally understand what you are going through re: 1 child. I haven’t gotten any comments yet, but I know they are coming. Add to this the fact that 9 out of my 10 friends are pregnant with their first (and in some cases second), and it’s like a new kind of torture.

I just wanted to say that you are not alone. I know you know that, but I guess I wanted to reassure myself too. If I could somehow mail my rabbit-ness to you, I would in a heartbeat. Good luck with the moosh 2.0 project, I’ll keep my ovaries crossed for you

By: Elizabeth Kaylene

Elizabeth Kaylene — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 16:56:24 +0000

And okay, I’ll admit it. I’m not even 21 yet, and not married. So I know that it would be CRAZY to have a baby right now.

But.

Sometimes, when I take a look at all of my friends with their one or two children, and the girls I know who are pregnant… Sometimes, I get this insane biological clock tick started and I feel absolutely nuts for even feeling the slightest bit jealous.

I know that one day I’ll have a family and that I just need to be patient, because it’ll happen when I’m ready and blah blah blah, but still.

And now that that’s out of the way. I’m never admitting that again.

By: Elizabeth Kaylene

Elizabeth Kaylene — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 16:52:47 +0000

*hugs* You rock. And I love you. And stuff. <3

By: The Bossy Yankee

The Bossy Yankee — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 03:27:34 +0000

Can I tell you how much I understand this. I was married at 21 divorced by 26 still single at 28 and struggle all the time with pregnancies around me and births. Honestly it sucks. I am happy for my friends and family but so sad for me. I want nothing more than a family, but I want it with the right person. I know I am only 28 but it still stinks. I just want to get married again to the right man and have lots of babies. I just hope that the time comes.

By: ashley

ashley — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 17:28:22 +0000

currently, i am (once again) the last one in my ward to not be pregnant.

my daughter is the youngest of a series of close to 20 babies born in succession to our little ward.

the births have begun again and i’ve been doing treatments for six months. one miscarriage already (second thus far) and no successful pregnancies. i’m 2 & 0 dude. the only reason we have a child is because someone else fell into the rabbit category when she wasn’t ready to be a mom. love her to pieces but i’d like to borrow her working ovmaries sometime. please?

hurts. man it hurts.

i’m so making an “i’m a panda” button.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:13:19 +0000

My heart goes out to you. As the panda produced from rabbits, I understand so well. And why do people assume super-fertility runs in the family? “Your mom had lots of kids, why don’t you?” Um, maybe because I’m not her. I’ve had a long bitter struggle with infertility and other illness and sometimes don’t think I have the strength to even start infertility treatment. Because of one thing or another we have put that off for years.

I seem to be fairly ok around friends, its family I sometimes can’t deal with. All the unintentional rude questions and comments seem to hurt more. And having no one IRL who actually understands makes me feel completely isolated at times.

My only pregnancy was a complete shock, we were told we needed IUI. We never got to meet our precious daughter, she would have been born only a couple of weeks ago.

I know there are no words that can offer comfort but my prayers are with you.

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:29:03 +0000

I am exactly where you are right now. I have secondary infertility (had my daughter easily) and have been undergoing fertility treatments for a number of months now. Unsuccessfully. I am surrounded by pregnant women. On Wednesday, our receptionist’s 20 year old unmarried daughter had her second in less than 2 years. When her mom was complaining about it, I was tempted to ask her to leave my office and shut the door behind her. The infertility journey is a unique kind of heartache.

By: gorillabuns

gorillabuns — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 14:58:05 +0000

i wish i had words of wisdom on this subject other than man, i get you.:)

By: Dugi

Dugi — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 07:49:56 +0000

@Helen, she prolly wasn't out to get u or make ur life so horrible... she has it so much worse. u could have reached out time and time again. she was hurting and avoidance was her way of dealing with it.