There. I said it.

And it’s not just because she’s in Ireland right now. Although I have to hand it to my mom and her crappy timing, seems like whenever I really need her she’s in a foreign country. Last time I cried out for my mom? She was in Turkey. Don’t even get me started on the time she was in Africa and that other time she was in Nepal.

Pfft. Stupid mom and your stupid passport.

It hasn’t always been like this. I remember the first time she left the country, it was to Italy. There was a sort of comfort knowing that my mom was going to be thousands upon thousands of miles away (sorry mom!)

Needless to say there was a time my mom and I didn’t get along. Like, at all.

Then I had a kid. Her grandbaby. And I realized all this stuff Addie does to me, the unending questions, the poop, the sobbing, the drama, the whining, the barf, the sleepless nights and HOLY COW DID I MENTION THE QUESTIONS? I did all of that to my mom. Plus she let me live through my teenage years so on top of everything listed above? I also did all that nasty teenagery stuff to her too (really sorry mom!)

And for the most part?

She did it alone.

Like any good daughter with issues I spent a lot of years blaming her and our crappy relationship for most (if not all) of my problems (so..so sorry mom!) Then one day it dawned on me that my mom didn’t have any formal training, and if I didn’t have any idea what I was doing as a teenager? I know for a fact she didn’t have any idea what to do with me either.

As much as I firmly believe it sucks, I am a grownup. And real grownups don’t blame their problems on other people. Especially not their mom who not only kept them alive, but allowed them to live past 15.

So yes, I miss my mom. I miss how much time I lost with her because I was so busy being selfish. I miss her because she’s alone. I miss her because she’s half a world away.

photo by my kim.

But mostly I’m thankful to have a mom to miss.

Now it is time for you to join in- You are invited to log onto www.thankyoumom.com and enter to win a travel voucher to help cover the cost of a special reunion with their mom or mom figure in their life.  Contest entrants must submit a 100 word essay describing why they’d like to be united with their mom.  Approximately 15 winners will be chosen every month through the Thanksgiving holiday.

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Comments

  1. What a great picture of you with your mom. You are very lucky to have a mom that you like who likes you back!

    And I can see where you get your looks — your mom is beautiful.

  2. caroline says:

    i miss my mom too. she’s only an hour away but when you don’t have an hour in your day to get away from work, life, etc, it might as well be 9 hours on a plane. thanks for putting it so perfectly. i am going to call my mom when its not…you know…4am.

  3. caroline says:

    i pressed send too early! i am going to call my mom as soon as i know she’s awake, and thank her for letting me live past 15.

  4. Grandkids are like the great equalizer/ eye-opener. I had a similar revelation upon the birth of my son. I then proceeded to write a note thanking her for not smothering me in my sleep (which no jury in the land would have convicted her of doing). She still carries the note in her wallet. I can’t wait until I get my note.

  5. Sunshine says:

    I miss my mom too.

  6. I miss my mom. A lot. She lives halfway around the world, you know, and sometimes that really blows.

  7. I miss my mom. I get to see her here and there. She lives in Utah and it is a long drive to make with little ones without help. Maybe I will get to see her more when she moves out to Indy!

  8. Hey. You gonna introduce me to your girlfriend, there, or what?

  9. That is such an awesome pic of you and your Mom!!!

    I’m feeling kind of angry with my Mom, so I am not ready for a reunion but I will spread the word!

  10. What a great post !!!

  11. Aww. (:

  12. I miss my mom, too.

    I raised my daughter alone. And it was so unbelievably hard. And I made so many mistakes.

    I can only hope one day my now-grown daughter will miss me. Maybe she does.

  13. I want you to win this. because I need to meet her.

  14. I was thinking that the other day – how now that I “know better” than to do certain things, I look back on how I used to act and am ashamed at myself. Mom’s sure put up with a lot! Got to love them. Love the photo by the way. you and your mom are gorgeous!

  15. I miss you. I love you. Sorry about this weekend. I have the opportunity to now pay for food next month if I work on Saturday. Heavenly Father works in crazy ways like that. :( xoxo

  16. Amy in StL says:

    Aw, I feel for you. I missed my mom a lot while I lived away. Luckily, she didn’t travel overseas so she could come visit several times a year and was only a phone call away.

    I can’t imagine how hard single parenting is – or how hard parenting is for that matter. I mean, jeez, I get short tempered with my dog when he’s taking extra long to find a spot for pooping when it’s very hot or very cold outside.

    I’ll bet your mom would love to have a teleporter so she could just pop in for a moment when you miss her. Mom’s are great like that – they love us in spite of our current emotional state!

  17. Oh this was so sweet. I hope it made (or will make) your mom smile!

  18. Wow she is in Ireland, thats so cool. I hope my country treats her very well.
    When my parents travel the world I miss them so much I feel like a big child!!