I like it when I get emails that say “I think we’d be friends in real life.

Because I think so too.

I qualify this statement because A) you read something I wrote, weren’t scared away and took time out of your busy life to write me an email. B) There’s very few people that I don’t want to be friends with and C) One can never have enough friends.

The sad trombone part of this story is that when I open my front door I don’t see any of my friends. I have a few here and there around my town…but outside my front door? None. If I needed a cup of sugar? The grocery store clerk is the only one who could help me. My dad lives on a street where they host regular neighborhood get togethers in their driveway, like launching fireworks off the grumpy neighbors sidewalk on the fourth of July or the annual pumpkin carving contest on Halloween.

Everybody knows everybody else and growing up there were always friends to play with and people to talk to. It remains true to this day.

I miss that.

The bigger question I have to ask myself is would I trade a street full of neighborly folks for the neighborhood I have online? I have a friend in New York who sent Addie ballet shoes from Julliard and black and white cookies for me. I have a friend who let us crash in her guest room with almost no notice in Denver. I have plans to eat cherry pie with everyone who lives in Michigan. I also have several Canadian Kit Kat suppliers. I could wake up in almost any city tomorrow morning and have a friend there who knows where the best pastries are. Not to mention I’ve had several friends come through Indy where I had a warm bed and tasty food to offer them.

You know what else I just realized? My friends are googleable.

I can check in on them, keep track of them and they can do the same for me.

The other day I decided I’m going to be basing my opinions and judgments of people on how they felt during the first 15 minutes of the movie “Up.” (these four minutes specifically.)

Based on the answers I got on both facebook and twitter?

We’d get along just fine.

I have a feeling most everybody would get along with everybody if we were simply honest with ourselves and kind to others around us.

And I do hope we get the chance to share pastries someday.

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” -Dr. Seuss (he and I would have been grand friends as well.)

Comments

  1. I love them, and I’m heartbroken for them.

    I live in Indy (Garfield Park)and would LOVE to have lunch w/you and know you. But I feel like a stalker saying that. Why is it so easy to reach out to people online and so hard to do it in person? If you’re interested in lunch, e-mail me. You should have my address on this comment.

  2. I cry every. single. time. I watch Up with my daughter. Even my friends with no kids have seen it and cry! Great movie.
    BTW… we don’t speak to anyone on our street. They are all older with no kids a little wack-a-doodle in my opinion! :)

  3. Oh my gosh. I loved this post. I might actually cry, though. Which is good, but not. I have a few friends in my area, but my “best” friend who lives down the road and I aren’t really close anymore. So I could go get an egg from someone around the corner, and have, but it’s just not the same. I wish for my network of friends to be all here with me sometimes, just to make life easier and prettier, but like you, I get that having them spread out everywhere is equally (if not more) cool. Thanks for this post. I <3 it. Let's be friends, too, OK? ;)

  4. it’s lovely to know you feel the same way about your readers that we feel about you.
    also-that clip brings me the most intense mix on sorrow and joy–love it!

  5. Considering I can’t even get through “Snoopy Come Home” right now, I don’t think I’d survive “Up.”
    The good news is that we’re friends already (mostly because I’ve got great taste and you are insanely generous.)

  6. I watched “UP” for the first time with my kids in the gymnasium of my son’s school. Yup. I was a blubbering fool in front of all sorts of strangers. But strangers? I hardly think you and I are. I can’t wait for you to give birth to Mozzi, and introduce her to all of us.

  7. That neighborhood you’re looking for … I have it here. And I’m so sad I have to leave it. I hope to be able to find it again. And I don’t doubt your ability to ‘make’ that neighborhood where you are.

  8. I love Married Life, but I hope you understand I can’t watch now because I’m at work and I will turn into a pile of tears and snot. Also, if you’re ever in Long Beach, CA I know of a delicious french bakery with the yummiest pastries, my treat. Love your blog and so, so excited for Little Mozzi!

  9. I bawled, like a shake your shoulders ugly face cry, when I watched Up (specifically that part). It is something we all need to watch every once in a while, I believe with my whole heart.

    Love you, friend.

  10. I’m tearing up in my office and am not even going to bother to get up to close the door.

    PS My office (an my home and family) are in Indianapolis.

    PPS We could be real life friends – I’m a transplant and always looking for new girlfriends.

    PPPS Mozzi and Sprout (my first due in a few weeks) could be friends.

  11. Amy in StL says:

    This, this is what I want. I have no idea how to find it but I’m not sure I’m willing to give up either. Honestly, it always makes me weep though.

  12. I have never seen UP but that four minute clip just had me sobbing. I know what its like to miscarry and have that be the only pregnancy you ever get to have. I am netflixing Up for tomorrow night I am sure I will probably bawl my eyes out if it is half as emotional as that clip! I hope you are feeling well!

  13. The next time you come to Chicago I’m going to show up with pastries, so please, don’t turn me into a stalker.

  14. I’ve almost sent you that exact email a million times.
    We would so be friends in real life.

  15. Stopping by from Brooke’s place at Solitary Insanity! I feel like I could have written this post myself. And “Up”? OMG, I cried my eyes out during the first 15 minutes of that movie! It’s so me and my husband–just love it :)

  16. How is it that I’ve never seen this movie? I have kids. I love Disney. I cry at Hallmark commercials. I will be seeing it this weekend! My husband thinks it’s odd that I can see myself being friends with people that I don’t “know in real life”. I need more friends :)

  17. Editdebs says:

    You are just all kinds of awesome. I love your blog, your sense of humor, your warmth–pretty much everything. I wish you so much happiness, and I’m glad I found your blog.

  18. I want to live on your street and if you ever come to Houston we are so totally spending a day together!!

  19. we are already great friends…or so I like to think.

    and I bawled my face off during those four minutes.

    Bawled. Mah. Face. Off.

  20. I adore this post. While I’m sure I tell you that often, it’s very, very true.

    Today? I’m getting on a plane to fly to California to spend six days at my best friends house. My very best friend in this entire world…who I met because of twitter.

  21. I like you so much.

  22. Consider me your Lansing, Michigan friend – you’re welcome to stop by any time!

  23. I cry like a baby. You can’t help but have your heart melt for this sweet little couple having so many tender moments but never getting their dreams.
    And I’d love to be your Raleigh, NC friend. But I feel we’re already kind of friends anyway since we’ve emailed back and forth a few times.

  24. Your post ended with my favorite quote ever! I try and remember that when the world gets me down that some people just don’t matter! I love reading your blog, and it was such a comfort to see this quote today…thank you!

  25. Sniff sniff. Love love.

  26. Sidenote. The movie Up changed my friend’s life. She almost said no to an adoption that would have been complicated. But after that movie said yes. LITERALLY, because of THAT movie, her husband and her went home and had a long talk and changed their mind. It’s been the best things she ever did.

  27. i know you have like a million comments and you probably won’t notice this one…but on the off chance…i liked this post a lot. i related. i have cherry pie waiting.

    and i’m praying for you…right now…can’t wait to meet her ;)

    xo

  28. <3
    I forgot to tell you that my husband was in Indy last week. I made him go to Scotty's Brewpub and he agreed that it was the best pulled pork sandwich ever but he was too big of a wuss baby to try the fried pickles even though I said, "WAS I WRONG ABOUT THE SANDWICH? NOOOOOOO. THE PICKLES ARE GOOD."

    I miss you – you are a lovely hostess. You fed my belly and gave me a place to sleep. And smiles.
    xoxo

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