I used to get offended a lot.
Remind me to tell you about the time I walked out of church because I was so offended.
Nobody can know everything about everyone’s situation.
I’m not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes because I know I’m not dumb… and I also know that I’m not blonde. -Dolly Parton
There are too many people and too many situations to understand them all.
Someone is going to say something at some point that is going to ignite that little fire inside you. You are going to want to fire back. I’m going to ask you not to do that. I’m going to ask that when you find yourself offended? Take a deep breath and count to ten.
Cheesy I know, but it totally works.
Depending on the situation find out as much about the person as you can (without gossiping.)
I hate to break it to you but there are some people out there who have led charmed lives and are incapable of understanding the emotional complexities of difficult situations. However it’s not painful to admit that some people are just jerks looking for a fight.
Then there are the people in the middle. This is where I fall. I say stupid stuff sometimes. I try not to say as much stupid stuff as often. Sometimes I fail. But I apologize. And I genuinely mean my apologies. And I change.
Sometimes people don’t know they’re being offensive until someone gently corrects them.
Assertively correct someone with a sprinkle of insult and fury yourself?
That person isn’t going to change. They’re just going to be convinced that you’re the offensive jerk.
…and they cycle continues.
It is very, very easy not to be offended by a book. You just have to shut it.
It is very, very easy not to be offended by the Internet. You just have to click the little x.
It is very, very easy not to be offended by a TV show. You just have to turn it off.
Being offended is a choice.
Feeling offended is involuntary.
What you choose to do with that feeling is voluntary.
You’re not going to agree with everything everyone says every time. And not everyone is going to agree with you. That would be very boring.
But we can all make our disagreements much more civil.
Besides, when you’re the civil one it makes it a lot easier to weed out who the true turds are.
And true turds are rare.
Don’t be a turd.
You can be understanding and accepting without condoning.
Speak softly and carry a big stick. Preferably a pretty one you found on Pinterest or Etsy.