Last week I had a few hours alone with Addie, a lot of it in the car where she was forced to listen to whatever I had to say and answer whatever I asked.
I took a deep breath and had the swear word, sex, molestation, touching, and your body is your wonderland talk.
Part of it was to find out how much she knew, while the other part of it was to have her hear most of this stuff from me first.
Also to make sure she knew she could ask me about rough stuff and not have to be shy or embarrassed by it.
At the suggestion of a friend I bought her The Care and Keeping of You book and it’s been a treasure trove of information for her. Aside from her chasing Cody around the house with her book open to the different stages of breast bud development I’d say it’s gone really well.
I know this raising girls thing is going to get a whole lot harder before it gets easier. But with this first big conversation out of the way (and knowing that no one has approached her about touching, seeing or other terribly inappropriate things) there is a weight of my shoulders. The conversation has been started, it’s up to me to keep it going and up to her to keep listening.
The best part is was when I spelled sh*t out for her and after a long pause, she asked “Now, is this said with a long i or a short i?”
How have big/awkward/weird/uncomfortable talks gone in your family?