If you suspect someone may be hurting themselves, or considering hurting themselves — either through self-harm or suicide there’s an (I can’t believe I’m about to use the word easy) easy way to approach the conversation.

“Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve been down lately. Is self-harm or suicide something that has crossed your mind? I don’t want you to have to deal with thoughts like that alone.”

You don’t have to fix anything (in fact, don’t even try.)

You’re not going to drive them over the edge by asking.

You just have to give them a chance to talk. Allow them to put into words the thoughts that may be going through their head.

Things become less scary when we talk about them.

So let’s talk.

Indiana State Fair

I don’t want to be the girl who talks about sad stuff all the time, but I’ve read some pretty good stuff today and if you’re here looking for stuff like that I’d like to share:

  • This one from Kat Kinsman about going public with depression. “…I’ve lost too much time and too many people to feel any shame about the way my psyche is built. How from time to time, for no good reason, it drops a thick, dark jar over me to block out air and love and light, and keeps me at arm’s length from the people I love most.
  • This one from a Pastor (not that it really matters, but he has two degrees from Harvard and one from Yale in religious studies) is also a spectacular response to the above mentioned fellow who has rubbed so many people the wrong way. (I won’t link him or mention his name because I don’t want him to get the clicks but he’s easy to find.) “The thing is, saying ‘’no’’ to suicide is evidence that I am healthy enough to say no. But, if I should ever commit suicide, it will not be because ‘’I’’ made the choice, but because my depression would have.”

 

 

Comments

  1. You have helped to make it OK to talk about my own struggles with depression and anxiety. I’m not afraid to admit it anymore. Thank you.

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  3. Thanks, love. I hate that there are so many of us who know the horror of this illness, and I’m so glad the internet gave us a way to find each other. It is a good thing, to share our burdens and our victories.

  4. I appreciate so much the responses to that blogger. While I thankfully don’t suffer from depression myself, the fact that someone else who does not suffer from it either, thinks they can say what is and is not a choice makes me so angry. Admittedly that dude has made my liberal-loving self angry for a while, so I stopped reading a long time ago, but this headline just proved to me that he will literally say anything to get clicks. I wish people would see that’s all he really cares about.

    -Long time reader, not very good commenter, and local Indianapolis folk

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