It's my 30th Birthday. (April 28th)

After a marvelous evening filled with friends, cupcakes and dancing…I feel more like myself and less like a slug.

I’m looking forward to thirty even though I still feel like I’m only 22.

It’s tradition around here that you wonderful people come out of hiding and make me a comment cake, telling me about the wonderful things going on in your life. Even if it’s just a nap or a really good sandwich last week. But if I may be a little selfish this year, since it’s kind of a big year, tell me something good, and then if you’ve been around for awhile (or just a little while), could you also tell me what your favorite post or photo of mine is?

I mean, I know what I like…but I’ve always been curious what you like, I’ve just been too bashful to ask.

I look forward to reading your lovely, it’s been a highlight of my birthday for the last five years.



  1. I hope you had a wonderful birthday! I started reading you on babble Kids Scoop and really enjoy your posts (both places)! I think one of the reasons I love your posts is because I have my own curly headed little 7 year old! It’s fun to hear your Addie stories! Often, it sounds like things that go on in my own house!
    Oh, and I love your photography!
    Ps- I love that Cody is blogging now! It’s neat to see it from a Dad’s perspective!

    Casey Reply:

    @Amanda, Curly headed kids are a force to be reckoned with. Thanks for making the big leap from Babble!

  2. I wasn’t on the internet much on your birthday (how did I survive the day?!), but I’m pretty sure you’ll accept Belated Birthday wishes, just the same.

    I’m so glad the internet allowed me to meet you – you are such a unique, sweet person. I wish you nothing but the best this coming year.

    You have too many wonderful pictures to pick a favorite, but some of my recent favorites include Paul’s birth story pictures.

    You are a gem. Keep shining!

    Casey Reply:

    @punkinmama, I’m so happy you finally got your baby. SO HAPPY.

  3. Happy, Happy Birthday from a semi-stalker (I do comment on occasion)! I can’t give you just one post because I LOVE them all…from your curly-haired big girl to your chubby, munchable baby girl to your sweet hubby to your one-eyed cat! Love every bit of it. Love how you share your heart with us, make us laugh and sometimes cry. You bring me to send prayers to Heaven for you and your sweet little family from time to time, too! Love checking out your awesome photos and getting ideas when I take pics of my own sweet kids. You are just a special person and I am priviledged to have been reading your blog for years. Can’t even remember how I originally came across it, but sure am glad I did! I hope your life continues to fill up with much more of the wonderful…you deserve to be HAPPY! Is it possible to love someone you’ve never physically met? I’d say so ’cause I think you’re the bomb diggity! 😉 Hugs, love and all that stuff!

    Casey Reply:

    @Beth, Thank you so so much, and you’re the first person to mention the Wink which makes you super special. 😉

  4. Happy birthday (albeit a few days late) !!!

    I loved your post titled “You Are Not.” Is it bad I picked one in your side bar? Sometimes, when I’m having a bad day and particularly struggling, I come back and read it again. It makes me feel better in my corner of the world, when my depression feels like it is sucking me into a deep hole that I can’t claw my manicured nails out of, no matter how hard I try. It speaks to me and makes me feel so much less alone.

    Good things going on for me right now? Vacation is 20 days away. That’s less than three weeks! I think I can, I think I can, I think I can…

    Casey Reply:

    @Whit, VACATION IS 4 MONTHS FOR ME! You are not is a good one that came at a once in a lifetime moment. I like that one, it’s like the post the Internet wrote for me.

  5. @Marta, SOLD!

  6. @Michele Turney, Oh man. I still love to Dyson to this very day.
    Hope things look up for you soon darling.

  7. @Sarah W., That’s what I love to years!

  8. @Sarah W., YEARS? Hear. HEAR.

  9. @Jenny, Oh I’m always happy to hear that I did something right and that you’re doing better.

    Jenny Reply:

    @Casey, You do a lot of things right. Give yourself credit, and a pat on the back from me. ;).

    Alex’s broken bone shifted due to the large forearm muscle pulling on the bone. It’s common with this break. We have to go to the children’s hospital tomorrow. They will put him under and then realign the bone and recast his arm. If possible, they will do the procedure without surgery. If not, they will pin the bones. All good thoughts and prayers for the boy are appreciated. If you can spare a prayer please send it his way.

    I’ll send a prayer and good vibes your way that dark clouds over your world pass soon and the sun shines brighter in Indy.

    Casey Reply:

    @Jenny, How’s his arm? Update please!

  10. @Amanda, Love is wonderful, I’m so happy you’ve found it. You’ve been around for a long time and it means a lot to me.

  11. @Megan N., 2 WEEKS! I still remember the day Cody graduated from law school. It was SUCH a good day. So much relief.
    Best wishes in all of it.

  12. @Sheyenne, Thank you so much, amazing news on your garage sale and how blessed those kids will be down in Ecuador because of you and your ward.
    Kiss that couple in your church, what wonderful people.

  13. @Amber C., Sisterhood of the moms of curly hair unite. I’m pretty excited that the 30’s seem to be so popular with everyone who’s already been there.

  14. @Avitable, Insert joke here. Ha ha ha. We both laugh, so funny. 🙂
    Thanks for sticking by me big guy.

  15. @Kim, You’re my sunshine, to the moon and back.

  16. @meekasmommy, Thank you!

  17. @Amy, I read your comment earlier, and proceeded to vacuum my first floor.
    Thanks for that, yo.

  18. @Rochelle, Ah! Thanks google! To be honest I still have a hard time keeping Addie looking well cared for, I think only moms of curly headed ladies could understand. 🙂

  19. @Leah B, Thank you, Vivi is so close to walking, I can’t believe it. You and I will be commiserating over bumped baby noggins soon enough.

  20. @Casey, So sweet to reply Casey. And a picture will be in your inbox. Not beautiful like your pictures, but I’m taking about a million of them, because a baby of any kind motivates me to take pictures.And yes, puppies heal broken hearts too, it’s all that unconditional baby love– they’re just furry babies, and I’m a sucker for a baby of any species. love is love.

  21. Casey, I wish you knew what your writing does for me. Every single post is like it’s written just for me. I’ve been struggling with personal decisions lately regarding my marriage and my faith and my life. Yesterday, in particular, I read your post about your getaway with Cody. The last two paragraphs about loving and accepting your body and then the quote about loving deeply at the end…..I was in tears. Weeping. Sobbing. You said exactly what I needed to hear. You usually do. I don’t know you, you don’t know me. But you’ve done far more for me than I’ll ever be able to tell you. Thank you. You rock. I turned 30 on April 18th. Happy Birthday to us.

    Casey Reply:

    @Liz, Oh Liz, thank you for this. Cody and I had to stick it out through some rough garbage and there’s times that I look at him and am amazed that we ever treated each other so unkindly. If there’s any hope to anything, it’s worth sticking it out until you know for sure.
    Best wishes with you darling.

  22. I’m a little late to the game, but also wanted to say happy birthday. I loved turning 30 – so much more comfortable in my own skin and in life than in my twenties. Still haven’t figured out what I think of turning 40 in one short year.

    I love all of your photos and post. You’ve helped me understand depression and infertility better. I didn’t struggle (too much) myself, but it reminds me how personal and real it all is.

    One post I didn’t see mentioned (but I didn’t read all the comments!) was one where you explained your religion. I’m a very non-religious person (living in Indiana – I know!)but work for a company based in Provo, UT, and I must say I work with the nicest people around. They were all so surprised when I knew they were building a temple here in Indy, as well as some of the other fundamentals of the LDS faith. I wish we lived in a world where we all aimed to understand and respect each others religious views, and that post helped me understand just a little better. I hope it did for others as well.

    So happy birthday beautiful lady! I look forward to many more photos and posts from you!

    Casey Reply:

    @Amy, Thank you! Have you ever had to GO to Provo? I don’t much like it there but yes, the people are quite lovely.

    I can still remember my mom turning 40, dude, when I’m 40 Addie with be EIGHTEEN. EEP.

    Amy Reply:

    @Casey, I’ll be there Wednesday and Thursday this week actually! I’ve probably gone 4-5 times a year for the last 6 years. Can’t say I’d want to move there, but it’s not a bad place to visit at all. Every time I go I wonder why I live in flat Indiana and don’t live near mountains. One day I’ll move to Denver. 🙂

  23. Kristen @ The Chronicles of Dutch says:

    I’m so late but happy birthday. My 30’s have been so good to me – I wish the same for you.

    Love all your photos but honestly the one on this post blew me away. What a fantastic shot of you. Also, any photo with Vivi’s baby pudge melts my heart!

    Casey Reply:

    @Kristen @ The Chronicles of Dutch, Thank you! I nearly lost my fingers with how windy it was and how big those balloons were but totally worth it. 🙂

  24. Happy birthday! <3

    I loved your posts about the HSG because it helped me help my sister.

    I love seeing your beautiful face and your beautiful family.

    Happy birthday, miss.

    Casey Reply:

    @Sarah, Oh man, I know I’m lucky to have you in my life but your sister is even luckier.

  25. Joules says:

    @Casey, What are you doing to me? I am currently detoxing from the mini eggs and now I’m trolling the internet for the fudge eggs. Send insulin now.

  26. Bellamomma says:

    I know this is late, but I wanted the official confirmation: For the second time in my life, your birthday has brought me a positive pregnancy test & *hopefully* our 3rd happy, healthy munchkin.

    I love your sick & vomitting preggo posts b/c you are the only person I know who can play the “I threw up SO much” game with me 😉 I’m praying that it won’t be the case again this time around, but the Vegas odds are not in my favor!

    Casey Reply:

    @Bellamomma, AHH! Congratulations! Enjoy all that, um, making humans stuff. I love it but man I need a break between it. LONG BREAK.
    Best wishes!

  27. RsqAnimals says:

    Ive been a fan for a year or more and Im pretty sure I found you through BA/Heir to Blair. I dont think I can pick a single post or photo because I heart them all. I feel like were besties even though Im on the West Coast and weve never met & you dont know who I am. You have heart & courage for putting yourself out there and I thank you for that. When I sometimes feel alone or Im blaming myself for my bipolar, its you who makes me feel not alone & that Im still good, well & my fab hubby too! Gotta say my top fav photos are the Addie bonking Vivi in the head with the ball series, vivi with the Scotty dog & your 30th (how fabulously rich in color)! I hope to read your fabulous blog & life for years to come. Happy Birthday!

    Casey Reply:

    @RsqAnimals, Thank you! And isn’t Beth Anne WONDERFUL?
    Take care of the West coast for me and I’ll hold it down here in the Midwest until we can meet someday.

  28. Jachel says:

    Happy belated birthday. I find leftover birthday cake just as good. So here goes.

    I’ve been an avid blog reader for years, and comment only a few times, but the post I remember the most is the one where you accept and come to a place of peace with infertility. I cried and commented, and you even emailed me a response. I cried some more. You’re blessed with the ability to put into words things others cannot. So thank you.

    Casey Reply:

    @Jachel, Man, I can still remember the exact MOMENT I came to peace with all of it. Oh, it felt so good.

    I also have been eating birthday cake out of a box all day with a fork. *ehem*

  29. I’m late but just catching up to say happy belated birthday!!

    The happiest thing in the world here right now is that sixteen months after seeing his face for the first time, our little boy is finally home!

    My favorite post of yours was a billion years ago when you pulled ads on here to make way for more openness and honesty. It felt brave.

    Happy birthday Casey!!

    Casey Reply:

    @Kait, Thank you! I’m happy to still be ad free. (well, big nasty ads I don’t control at least.)

    Congrats on your little guy! SMOOSH HIM UP FOR ME!

  30. Happy Birthday!!!!

    I can’t believe you’re 30.

    I love the post from when your blog was all, “I’m 25. She’s 2.5.” and you did a fall fashion shoot with Miss Addie. Made me wondrous of what you could do with a girl. 😀

    Casey Reply:

    @VDog, And now you have a little girl to parade around as well! Be sure to have my number on speed dial for when she no longer likes the clothes you pick out for her.

  31. Wow, I’m late to this party! Happy 30th! You are only getting more fabulous.

    The best thing? I just got my first DSLR, a little Canon T3 and it is making me so happy. I just love having a real camera in my hands.

  32. I’m late to wish you happiness and add a layer to the comment cake. Does that make me the crumbs left over on the plate? I’m good with that. I always lick up the crumbs. 🙂

    Happy birthday! You are going to rock 30.

    My little bit of lovely? Sophie just turned one. I have two healthy and happy little girls. Life is pretty amazing.