This year will be my fifth BlogHer. This year will be my first year with a baby (yes, Vivi’s coming too) and it will also most likely be my first year wearing nothing but stretchy pants, because if I’ve learned one thing from the last four BlogHer conferences? You’re either going to like someone or you’re not and it makes no difference whether they’re wearing a new dress with heels or sweatpants with house slippers.

You can dress a jerk up but they’re still just a jerk in a dress.

The thing about these conferences is that you already have something in common with almost every single person attending. And let’s be honest, it’s kind of a dorky thing.

awkward prom photo.

We all like to spend time on the Internet for various and assorted reasons.

We’re all geeks on some level and that alone should get anyone over the initial anxiety hump.

Hoosiers (me and Amy)

To you new people, the conference will be what you make of it. You can spread yourself out and meet well over three thousand new people or you can find those with whom you connect with the most and spend three amazing days with soul sisters you never would have met had it not been for this dorky little hobby of yours. Or you can be like me and do a little of both.

@chookooloonks

If your mental status can handle it sit at a new table everyday for breakfast and lunch. Introduce yourself, ask questions about your table mates. Use the word ‘you’ more than you use the word ‘me.’ Take time to seek out those who look scared and alone and say hi. If you find someone crying outside the bathroom sit down with them and offer to share medication (kidding, kind of.) Don’t be offended if someone isn’t super nice to you, maybe they’re really scared of being surrounded by that many people (and it’s a lot of people.) If that “big” blogger you were so excited to meet brushes you off? Please don’t take it personally, maybe they just really had to poop, or their husband just called and informed them their baby fell of the swing set back home and knocked out her two front teeth. If you feel as though there are “cool kid clubs” please remember that many people who have been before are really excited to see their old friends they only get to see in person once a year. Excitement does not mean exclusion.

Bossy Moosh Joy

The people that go to these conferences are good people. They’re there because they want to be there.

As far as I know no one spends all this money and travels all this way only to find new people to hate and destroy. That’s what the check out line at Wal-Mart is for (again, kidding, kind of.)

That being said, if you are coming all this way simply to make fun of people and make them feel uncomfortable? You seriously need to find a new hobby, no offense.

Amy, moosh, Laurie

My first BlogHer I bought all new clothes. Seriously, everything I wore was brand new. I had my hair and makeup done and I even went on a diet.

This year? I’ll bring clean clothes (none of which will require Spanx) flat shoes and my chubby baby. I’ll shower daily, comb my hair, brush my teeth and hug you, because I will be so happy to see you again or meet you for the first time. I will spend my time with kind people, I will eat when I’m hungry, leave when I’m overwhelmed and hopefully more than once I will laugh so hard I pee a little.

@lesbiandad

And when it’s over I will regret not being able to meet everyone, go back to my regular life here in Indiana and look forward to doing it all again next year.

Comments

  1. I sorta just want to applud you right now.

    Can we somehow make everyone stop talking about “super secret BH parties” on Twitter? I mean really, if it’s that secret, why are you talking about it?

    Casey Reply:

    @Issa, I am going to a super secret party in my room and only Vivi is invited. Beat that.

    Issa Reply:

    @Casey, Dude. How can I get a super secret invite to that party??? 😉

    Kim Tracy Prince Reply:

    @Issa, Those super secret BH parties are either fake or they are just 3 girls drinking wine out of plastic cups in their messy hotel room. (Which is totally cool, and I hope I get invited.)

  2. @Katherine @ Postpartum Progress, Addie already called dibs. Kids. Sheesh.

  3. @the grumbles, Comfort and a smile, ’tis all you need.

  4. @Rose, They usually switch coasts each year so start saving up for 2012! It could be your year and I WOULD LOVE TO SEE YOU AT ONE!

    Rose Reply:

    @Casey, You betcha! MISS YOU!!!

  5. These were great tips..
    if I’m seeing one thing from the old hat bloggers who have done multiple Blogher conferences it is: comfy clothes.

    I figure that if I go with no expectations things will work out to my benefit.

    Casey Reply:

    @Lindsay Dianne, no expectations and stretchy pants!

  6. Not sure if you remember being in the elevator at last year’s conference and you mentioned to my boyfriend that he shouldn’t have on an “I’m a PC” sticker, but when you heard his British accent you said that he could wear any stick he wanted. It is moments like that at this conference that make me smile and I look forward to having again every year.

    Thanks for this post!

    Casey Reply:

    @Red Lotus Mama, Oh yes, I remember that. I’m such a sucker for an accent. (Along with every other woman most likely.)

  7. Ooooh, this is such great advice. This is my first year going to blogher. And it’s also my first conference EVER. I am nervous but kind of that excited first-day-of-school nervous where you feel like you might hurl but try really hard not to because you don’t want to make a fool of yourself.

    I’ll be honest, I might be wearing some new stuff and some heels. But after my 5th year I can join you with my stretchy pants.

    I would love to meet you and Vivi! LOVE. I’m so glad I read this post and I really hope I see you there.

  8. You really know what you are talking about and I LOVED this post! I have been in many of the situations that you described including crying outside the bathroom! I have met some fascinating women at BlogHer. Can’t wait to meet you there!

  9. Fantastic post. Here here! Can’t wait.

  10. Radness. Enjoyed spending some time around you at TAM09, I hung out around BH a bit last year but this year I’ll have my very own conference pass, AND be actually staying at the hotel. Which should be pretty awesome. ;p

  11. This is why I love you and have been reading you for years. In a blogosphere often rife with pettiness and inauthenticity, you shine, my dear. And would you believe, as a “veteran” 5yr blogger, I have NEVER been to BlogHer?! I love me my Blissdom though! Much more my speed.

  12. I really don’t need help peeing. Laughing just a little can cause that, so it’s not such a great goal for me…

    But laughing so hard I feel like I worked out and maybe even DID burn off a few calories while doing so? That I can look forward to!

  13. Can’t wait to see you and nom on those chubby baby thighs. No one has called the thighs…right? You know what a freak I am about germs.

    xo

  14. Your post kinda sounded like you were defending BlogHer. Does it need defending? Never been so I don’t know for sure, but the conference is (like most conferences) mostly about networking (and having fun. And maybe learning a little?) And networking is an art form that not all of us have mastered. I think once that is figured out there’s no need to be scared of BlogHer. Am I wrong? Just curious.

  15. I’m trying to refrain from buying anything new. SURELY I have things in my closet already! Except maybe that perfect dress… 😉

    Hope to hug you there and meet your sweet baby girl.

  16. See, now had I been keeping up with you better I would have known you were going…and I’m so glad you are.

  17. love these great photos,have fun

  18. hi your blog and photos seems like you enjoy your life