With motherhood, marriage and the loss of certain calendar spreads, it becomes more and more obvious that I will never be a lot of things. But with wifehood and motherhood also comes a new appreciation for what I can, and hopefully will accomplish.

I will never be the hot chick on the back of some guys motorcycle.

I will be the girl behind the bike of a little kid, teaching her how to ride without training wheels.

I will never be a cheerleader at the sidelines of an NFL game.

I will be the cheerleader at the sidelines of a little league game with juice boxes at the ready.

I will never be a famous singer.

I will get to sing duets in the car to Barbie soundtracks.

I will never bring men to their knees.

I will always have band-aids for skinned knees.

I will never cause a room to stop and stare when I enter.

I will cause tears to stop with nothing but a hug.

I will never win prestigious awards to frame.

I will get “I LOVE YOU MOM” written in crayon, maybe even Sharpie, on my wall.

I will never be the leading lady in a Hollywood blockbuster.

I will always be the only one who can make my husband his favorite meal the way he likes it.

I will probably never cure a disease or deliver a baby.

I will always show up  on doorsteps with casseroles for people who just got out of the hospital, lost a loved one or had a baby.

I will never make millions laugh with my “male candor and feminine wit”.

But I can always make my kid laugh so hard she can’t breathe.

I will never be featured in National Geographic.

I will always be featured on the walls of my own house and on the walls of grandma and grandpa back home.

I will never wrestle alligators.

I will wrestle wet naked babies in the bathtub or tantrum throwing toddlers in the aisles of Target.

I will never be a mom to millions.

But I will always be the mom to at least one.


What will you never always be?


  1. Nah, it was all in fun. I think your adorable.

    There are lots of things I will never be and I am proud of that…because it leaves someone better then I am to be those things, and in turn, I get to focus on the things I am good at…which is helping others, building websites, assisting moms online, taking care of my family, being a damn good wife, being charitable to my family…Im a decent singer, a good cook and I only burned my house down (literally) one time in my life.

    I think your blog is great and I would love to get to know you!

  2. I’m not feeling poetic enough to answer your question but I really enjoyed this post. I mean REALLY. It’s so great for those days when you feel like you’re not really doing anything/going anywhere. But being “here” all the time is kind of great, too. Thanks for this.

    Lisa in Polands last blog post..Name Dropping and a Princess’ Progress

  3. I started to say I will never write a book, but I write two blogs of which I am very proud.

    But you never know, do you?

    It could happen. Someday.

    Mrs. Whos last blog post..Try It Tuesday: Greenworks Cleaner

  4. That’s a great list!!

    Jills last blog post..A Perfect Post

  5. I will never ceased to be amazed by your writing.

    Jennies last blog post..Whip It Up – Festive Fudge

  6. Um, make that cease. I’m a good speller – I promise!

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  7. I don’t have an answer to your question just now, but I wanted to say that I just love this post.

    Nicholes last blog post..Monday nearly slipped by me

  8. I’ll never win a nobel peace prize

    I can always make peace between warring 8 year olds!

    This post cheered me up no end, I was sitting here (in work but shhh) feeling rather low now I’m smiling, thank you.

    Stephs last blog post..V2008 – (the part that wasn’t wet)

  9. What a cool way to come to terms with all the things we can never be.

    I’m still in denial and think I can do everything. Ok, not really, but I’m still in denial about a lot of it!

    Alysons last blog post..The Day We Became Border Rejects

  10. Great post!

    I will never be the (too) skinny girl I was back in college.

    I will always be proud of these curvy hips, because they birthed two giant, wonderful babies.

    all things BDs last blog post..Fashion Tuesd… Er, Fashion Thursday

  11. I will never be the celebrity that many people look up to.
    I will always be the sister/friend that one person may simply look to.

    Kates last blog post..My Husband – The Hero

  12. I will never be everything I dreamed of being when I was in high school.

    I will always be the mom who encourages my kids to dream big and tells them they can have those dreams.

    This was an awesome post. Somehow you made all the little things seem so much more glamorous than the glamorous stuff.

    Insta-moms last blog post..Taking years off

  13. I will never be the femme fatale, but I will always be the cool older sister who will stay up late playing RPG’s with her younger brothers where the object of the game is to infiltrate and destroy.

    I will probably never be some kind of ground-breaking therapist that discovers a new way to help millions cope and move on, but I will always be the one that the younger brothers call up when they’ve had a bad day and they either need someone to listen, or someone to think up the right things to say to take their mind off things and make them laugh.

    I will probably never be a mom myself, but I’ll always be the great older sister that is another mother figure to her brothers.
    (I’m 27 and I’ll have a brother that will be 24 in a few weeks and one who is 11)

    Ambers last blog post..okay, I’m a sell out

  14. I will never be a supermom- but I will be the best mom that I can be.

    mayas last blog post..Labor Day Weekend & Other Stuff

  15. who needs a stinkin’ hot blogger calendar anyway. you were totally robbed.

    i love this post.

    alis last blog post..loud and gaudy and silkscreen-y nostalgia

  16. I will never accomplish everything I think I should accomplish.

    I will hopefully someday accomplish enough.

    annas last blog post..Labor Day Meme That I Copied off The Stiletto Mom who Copied off Some Other Chick–Now With PIX!!

  17. I will never be an artist extraordinaire, but I will make my children fall over with laughter at my pathetic stick people drawings. hehe

    Rheas last blog post..Edumacation

  18. this is beautiful…

    I will never be on time.

    A mom’s hug is always right on time!

  19. I will never get to play catch with my son.

    I will always have his smile and acceptance despite the many mistakes I will continue to make.

    Great post, Casey.

  20. At this point in my life I will probably never sing the lead in the NY opera …

    But I will always be the best ponytail maker in my house.

    (I’ve sung in enough operas to know that the ability to give my daughter ponytails beats the pants off seeing a full house any night.)

    Bellamommas last blog post..There’s a fetus blocking the door to my creativity

  21. You are the Hodest Blogger. (Hot + Modest).

    Backpacking Dads last blog post..Death Race 2008

  22. I’m really feeling this post.

    I will never be the awesome mom,
    But I’m definitely the coolest aunt.

  23. get cody to buy a motorcycle and you will be the hot chick on the back of it, unless he doesn’t like motorcycles, then that probably won’t happen.

    megachicks last blog post..picnic weekend

  24. Casey, this is a great post! We all need this perspective, because honestly, don’t we all, at some part deep down inside, WANT to be the hot chick who turns heads and saves lives? Let’s just be happy with who we are…

    Katies last blog post..100 Things – The Finale

  25. Thanks for this post and so many others. You REALLY are truly amazing.

  26. Really good post! I’ll never be a whole ton of things I could have been. I’m sorry about a few of them. But my kids – worth it all.

    Amys last blog post..Sarah Palin Looks Like Me!

  27. Casey, this was so sweet. I love being the most important person to my kids.

  28. I LOVED your video and definitely thought you deserved a spot in that calendar. Modesty IS hot. Being a parent first and everything else second? Ultra hot. Then again, I’m a daddy blogger and totally biased…

    BusyDads last blog post..Like Studio 54 for Tots

  29. Great post! I love your perspective… and what a good reminder for the rest of us to take stock in the same way!

    Lindss last blog post..Manic Monday #132 (my #2)

  30. I voted for you, if that means anything.

    This was an amazing post, Casey.

    SciFi Dads last blog post..A Bad Dream

  31. What a sweet post! And I too voted for you – maybe next time! Well, I am perhaps too new into my life (25) to know yet what I will and won’t be, but I’m sure I’ll know it when it’s there!

  32. For the record, I believe you did make an entire room go silent and stare when you took the stage in San Francisco, but I would agree that the strength of a hug that can cure anything is way cooler.

    Amandas last blog post..Calling it a win

  33. I don’t even have anything to add. You said it all for me.

    And you don’t know how much I needed this post. Truly.

    Dawns last blog post..Things I Learned This Weekend

  34. I adore you.

    Jills last blog post..Loving Long Weekends

  35. I’ll never be a supermom. But I’ll do my best to be a good mom.
    great post!

    Kristins last blog post..And then there were three

  36. I may never be a mom to one of my own… But I will love 100’s of first graders as if they were my own.

    Erikas last blog post..What a Saturday!

  37. This is simply beautiful. Your writing always amazes me.

    I will never be perfect.

    but I will always perfectly be me.

    Perksofbeingmes last blog post..Letter to myself

  38. I will always be tired- but happy because I have two little onew that wear me out!

    heidis last blog post..She is probably the smartest girl I know…

  39. Being a mom is the greatest career on earth! Being a dad is number 2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  40. Being a parent doesn’t come with a manual! Enjoy your son they grow up way to fast! “Your children’s hell will slowly go by’ and “‘Feed them on your dreams” As Crosby, Still,Nash and Young sang…

  41. Sweetie all the things you are make you the awesome girl you are meant to be.

    And that is pretty damn awesome.

    Me? I will never be alone. Blessing and a curse.

    Kelleys last blog post..Chlamydia, Chlamydia, say have you met Chlamydia?

  42. I will never be a millionaire.
    I will always be content with the fortune that is my family and friends.

    Great post, love it. PERFECT. And, I think you should make a calendar of your pictures you take and laugh all the way to the bank…maybe we can all vote on pictures?

  43. You were totally robbed! You should be in that calendar!

    I will never win a gold medal. But I can drink beer like it was an Olympic sport. 🙂

    Kristabellas last blog post..My Brain Is Already Unemployed

  44. I loved this. Made me happy on a day when it was a little hard.

    jesss last blog post..just the two of us

  45. I will never be a famous scientist. I will always be a science teacher, turning kids on to science……maybe one of them will be famous!

  46. I love this post. You always do so well putting into words my thoughts. Loved it.

  47. That was so beautiful. One of my favourite things about motherhood is the ability to kiss things better. And as they get older I am getting a bit fearful of losing my super- (kissitbetter)-powers!

    Stomper Girls last blog post..On friendship.

  48. Beautiful. I will always never be replaceable.

    Kims last blog post..So, um this one time…

  49. I realised when I’d turned thirty (and still hadn’t got round to starting dance lessons) that I’ll never be a prima ballerina.

    I’m still holding out to be Wonder Woman some day though. Or Mr T. (those were my second and third choices. fullfilled most of the rest).

    mamacrows last blog post..A very merry (un) birthday to you…