I wish I could bottle this heroin type oh the joys wow what just happened I feel like I’m floating on little clouds of fuzzy kittens feeling I have after this weekend and my three hour drive home singing at the top of my lungs while dancing a wicked driver booty shake to all things iPod. There’s something to be said about entering a flock of women who already know your imperfections and insecurities. There was no “faking it” this weekend, no backstabbing (so maybe some of the foodbloggers and I got into it) and these people we love through written words really are that loveable in person, and usually they were even better in person. Which makes me even more confident that those of you who were unable to attend this year would make very good partners in crime next year. (I’m looking at you Poot and Jen.)

I don’t know how many of you got the chance to go in Second Life, but what I took away from blogher is that we all love each other so much. A shocking majority of us (me included) have taken down our blogrolls not out of laziness but out of fear of hurting someones feelings. It’s so easy to get caught up in numbers and comments, and it destroys us more than it helps us. All of you are in my reader, and I keep track of all of you like my little chickens. And if you only knew of all the amazing bloggers I’ve found. You are brilliant, you have all touched me in one way or another (Not like that, geesh.) I’m there, I promise, just as I know all of you are out there watching over me even though I don’t see all “the numbers”.

So if how or why you began writing is being affected by these “numbers” take a breath…they’re just numbers. And last I checked real love can’t be measured with numbers.


  1. You are so right, you have to write your blog to write it. The more you try to get people to come with gimmicks and things the less genuine you are and the less likely people are to come back. 🙂

  2. The numbers can get to you, can’t they? They get to me sometimes.

    Once they get the details planned out for next year, I’ll know if I can go or not.

  3. That is so true, and it is so darn easy to get all caught up.

    You are looking good over here, by the way, love the new site!

  4. Thanks for this post Casey…I struggle everyday to forget about numbers and comments and ratings. I also am way too worried about hurting people’s feelings…I’m just really, really nice, though :)!

    I WILL be there next year. I can’t wait! And Andi MUST come, too.

  5. The numbers drive me bat **** crazy. I hate them and yet can’t get enough of them. What is it that does this to us, and how does one make it stop!?

    I really liked this post! Thanks for sharing.

    And I’m totally at BlogHer next year. Rounded up a roommate already too.

  6. What a fabulous group of women. It was great meeting you.

  7. The Blogging community at large has been very welcoming (though a few clicks at BlogHer 07 ‘rejected’ me or fellow noobs much to our dismay).

    Thank you for the kind words! The Love Is Reciprocated!!

  8. Boy did you hit the nail on the head. I use to sit (before my company put safe eyes on my computer) at my desk and hit refresh all day long just to see how many new comments. I’ve found that over the summer I’m busy and not as much time for blogging or gasp reading everyone elses “stuff”.

    We all need to write for ourselves and the hell with the rest. Right?

  9. Oh, I am so there next year. Though I fear you, me, and Jennifer together could be a dangerous combination.

  10. I’ve been thinking about this…the whole numbers thing. For me, at this early stage of my blogging experience, the numbers, ratings, and comments represent connections. And let’s face it, if I wasn’t interested in connecting I’d still be scribbling in my journal (or at least have a private blog).

    But again, I’m a newbie…just barely with a double digit authority and hoping for days with consistent triple digit hits. Maybe someday I’ll feel confident with these connections that I am still building that I won’t need to check numbers or comments to feel the love.

    At least that’s how I justify it to myself;).

  11. I am so very envious of all the women who went to Blogher and actually got to MEET each other… IN PERSON! I am hoping to go next year… but it will be hard if it’s the last weekend in July again. Standing family vacation.

    So glad you had fun! Pictures, please!

    Jane, P&B Girls

  12. isn’t that the truth. terrific meeting you this weekend – i can’t believe i’ve not been here before.

  13. I put a counter on my blog, not for the numbers, but because I’m fascinated by where people are coming from.

    From the bubbling around the blogosphere, it sounds like BlogHer was excellent this year.

  14. Casey, I really enjoyed meeting you and look forward to following your blog from here on in.

    I have a lot of thoughts I want to share re BlogHer and traffic and blogrolls and stuff, but it will have to wait until I get a new powercord! Argh. Perhaps I’ll write in Word and post later.

  15. Thanks for the love, we love you too!