Cody works for a law firm that offers nary a single benefit besides a salary.

We do not have life insurance, we do not have health insurance, we do not have a retirement fund.

After last night not only do we still not have health insurance, we now get to pay a penalty for not having health insurance.

It’s easy to get caught up in entitlement.

Cody is an attorney, he does have a salary and a job, something to be very thankful for in this economy and in the state of Indiana in particular.

So this round of health care reform didn’t go so well for a lot of us. But it did go well for a lot of other people. I am going to be happy for them and work to make sure my turn to be considered is next.

This is turning people ugly. It’s setting off feelings of entitlement.

I’d love to march into Cody’s office and ask if they like having more than one child. Tell them that I’d love to have a second one but because they’re too busy keeping their fists wrapped tight around all their money and not providing something as common sense as health care…

It’s easy to get caught up in the drama of it all.

We’re okay. We’re healthy. We have a future together and we have each other.

We have a roof over our heads and every Sunday we get to go to the church we want to go to, sing the songs we choose to sing and pray the way we want to pray.

I can write all of this because I have an American right to.

Cody chose to become a lawyer. He chose to go to school and with school came student loans.

There’s people out there who get what a difficult situation this is, choosing to gain higher education and with it gain higher student loans.

There’s others who think that as soon as you get your diploma you also get a really awesome life and a six figure salary.

I’m sick of being pitted against other people playing the “I deserve this because I…” game.

I’m guilty of playing it.

Yelling at each other and making snide passive aggressive comments isn’t going to get us anywhere good. It never has before and it certainly won’t now.

Being happy for each other when things go right and helping each other out when things go wrong because we’re human and we’re all in this together will take us farther as a society than any bill in Washington ever could.


  1. Well said!

    Casey Reply:

    @dusty earth mother, thank you!

  2. @Casey,
    I think that’s a good start. And holy cow, how you don’t have insurance blows my mind. Hope you fall into lots of money soon (and everyone else). ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. @Casey,
    that just breaks my heart.

  4. Nicely put! Makes me glad I live north of the border! I don’t know what the solution is but hopefully there is one that can satisfy most (and stop denying coverage to pregnant women — which always appalls me). I am so thankful to Tommy Douglas and his foresight — my country and my life wouldn’t be the same without it.

    If Cody’s firm doesn’t get health insurance, you can always move North — Cody would have to retake the bar (not sure if you want to live through that again) ๐Ÿ™‚ I do have two extra bed rooms and I know where the nearest LDS church is…I am sure we could work out some kind of cook for board exchange ๐Ÿ™‚

    Casey Reply:

    @Kari, That is so tempting on so many levels.

  5. Thank you thank you thank you. I just wrote a similar post only from the other side. We teach our children good sportsmanship. Yet when it comes to politics, all bets are off. It’s not right

    Casey Reply:

    @Dawn, I started this post written to Addie, about feelings of entitlement. Then I realized she’s five and it’s the grownups (including me) that are being such pimpleheads about it.

  6. Well said, my friend!

    Casey Reply:

    @Candace, Aw thanks, here, let me get that rash for you.

  7. The really nasty reality is that those student loans don’t go away even after your chronic illnesses disabled you. So I’m in the opposite position. I get Medicare and Social Security Disability, but no more salary as a government lawyer. And you know I was living it up on that! I wish I’d had a better idea what my life was going to look like before I took out $60k in student loans to go to a state law school.

    Casey Reply:

    @Diana Lee, Dude, student loans don’t even go away after you die as long as you left somebody behind.
    We’re saving up for Addie’s school now, well, school or therapy.
    She can choose.

  8. AMEN to this:

    “Being happy for each other when things go right and helping each other out when things go wrong because weโ€™re human and weโ€™re all in this together will take us farther as a society than any bill in Washington ever could.”

    I really don’t get all the negativity… why can’t we all support eacho ther, and focus on the positive etc? It would be such a better world.

    Casey Reply:

    @Rachael, Because it’s fun to one up people with your misery!

  9. Stephanie says:

    Thank you for sharing your situation. I work on health care policy and have been waiting for this day for a really long time. The bill is far from perfect, but it is a huge first step. I hate that in this country people have to choose between paying off student loans or getting health insurance. Shame on your husband’s company for not offering health insurance. I think it’s horrible. I’m hopeful that you’ll be able to afford insurance soon – it’s critically important should something unforeseen happen (i.e. an accident or an illness). I did want to let you know about community health centers, which are required by law to treat anyone, regardless of insurance status or ability to pay. There are several in Indiana. Just something to consider if anyone in your family gets sick — much more affordable than a trip to the ER…

    Casey Reply:

    @Stephanie, Yeah, like I said in a comment above, I know that if something did happen to us, we wouldn’t die.
    Because we *do* have doctors within ten minutes of our front door.
    A lot of people in this world don’t even have that blessing.
    I’d rather it not happen, but I know if it did we’d be okay.
    Faith in God is cool like that.

  10. @Sherry, I learned last night that apparently one of the partners reads my blog.
    Uh, HEY DUDE! Insurance please! kthx!

  11. @deanna, Grace and chocolate.

  12. @Annis, Word.
    And thanks for saying it exudes peace, I was worried it exuded passive aggressive.
    The written word is so tricky.

  13. @Sara Joy Calm and gracious as political attributes? When I imagine such a thing I also envision the entire senate on the lawn dressed in white linen eating grapes and cheese.

  14. @Kat, Aw shucks, thanks.

  15. @Barb @ getupandplay, And you actually breathe the same air as politicians.
    Ten gold stars to you.

  16. @Vickie, Your husband is a doctor and you don’t have health insurance?
    Irony is delicious isn’t it?
    Our student loans are twice as much as our mortgage. *sad face*
    But my husband’s all smart and stuff.

  17. @Kim, Aw, thanks! I would have filled it with jellybeans too but that technology isn’t around yet.

  18. @SciFi Dad, Join me in the giant head shakes dude. Now add in a shoulder shrug.
    Yep, you’re right where I am.

  19. Casey, my husband is an attorney also, just practicing a little over one year. Isn’t it amazing at the amount of people who think that just because they are lawyers we are filthy rich?! HA! Hopefully one day, right?

    Not having health care sucks, we have been there, and I do think everyone deserves it. But this is going to blow up in our faces.

  20. I don’t see why the company can’t offer voluntary health insurance. You would still pay for all of it, but it would be cheaper than buying your own.

  21. Elisabeth says:

    Maybe someone else told you this already, and maybe this isn’t the hopeful type of comment you’re used to, but having health insurance through your workplace is relatively new. I learned this about 10 years ago in high school, and it has helped me deal with the “health care crisis” mentally and emotionally to know the why’s…maybe it will help you, too. It all started right after WWII, when business needed a way to lure workers in who were returning from war. Back then, there weren’t enough workers to go around (unlike now, where there aren’t enough jobs to go around). They figured that a good way to get and keep workers without raising salaries too much was to give them health insurance as an incentive. If you think about health insurance, its a big pool that people dump their money into. It works if less people are using it than there are people contributing. Businesses liked this idea, because unlike doling out a higher wage regularly, they would only pay for those who became sick periodically, which kept their expenditures down while still luring workers into a competitive market. So modern healthcare was essentially just a gimmick. And you’re right, people do feel entitled to something they’ve always had and have grown to see as the norm. But once you learn the background of it, it all starts to make a little more sense. It wasn’t meant to be the American way of life, or a guarantee of health as one of our country’s freedoms, and it had nothing to do with our government trying to take care of its people in a great new way. It was a business plan. I don’t have an answer to your health care woes, or even mine, but I do think being educated on the origins of health insurance helps. If we understand that our former health insurance program just may not work anymore because the market is different than it was back then, perhaps we will begin to open our minds to another way that is more feasible. It isn’t about who deserves it more than another, or who is more entitled, it is about finding a solution.