Have you ever been out with your friends at dinner and one starts to get uncomfortable because the waistband on her pants is just a little too tight and it’s starting to give her gas while your other friend has blisters from the shoes she hasn’t worn in awhile and no one has a band-aid to help her out?

Meanwhile you’re wearing stretchy stretchy pants with the most perfectly fitting sweater and shoes so comfortable that you could walk to the moon and back if the need arises?

You want with all your heart to give your gassy friend the stretchy pants off your body and switch shoes with your blistery friend but you can’t, because if you were to go without pants you would get arrested and your other friend has feet three sizes larger than your own.

The best you can do is teach your friend with the pinchy pants the rubberband around the button and through the buttonhole trick and for your sore soled friend? You help her hobble out to the car barefoot, who cares if she’s not wearing shoes? You’re her friend, not a 7-11.

Some of my favorite people are going through some very difficult times right now. And while their problems are those of deep sadness, depression and heartache rather than tight pants and pinchy shoes…I’m still left feeling helpless over here in my comfy pants and properly medicated brain.

I haven’t had much to say lately because I’ve been so preoccupied with prayers, hopes and wishes that my friends, whether close or far away, in or outside the computer, can feel better. I know they’ve all done the same for me when I’m down in the dumps.

So ladies? Until your pants fit comfortably and your shoes don’t pinch, I’ll be here, rooting for you.

heart cookies.


  1. I know you didn’t write this for me but I feel like you wrote this for me. Thank you. I needed that virtual hug.

    Now I’m going to go pretend this wasn’t a totally creepy comment.

  2. It’s like you just know when I need one of your posts like this. Thank you!

  3. That’s beautiful!

  4. xoxo

  5. You have a good heart.

  6. I’m gonna pretend that was written for me. You are the sweetest. Also, please pass a sugar cookie…

  7. Michelle says:

    .. and baking cookies. Thank you. 🙂

  8. Sunshine says:

    You’re a good friend! (somewhat related: is it Spring yet?)

  9. I can feel my pants and shoes getting tighter as March 14 approaches (the start of the 2008 events). So, as others have said, I’ll pretend you wrote this for me. 🙂

    Hope you’re feeling well and Mozzi is behaving.

  10. So? Where’s my cookie?

    I’m glad you’re feeling well. And, if I could, I would gladly rub your feet when they needed it – but you’re on your own when it comes to your pants.

    I’m just sayin’. 🙂

  11. You are an amazing friend.


  12. totally pretending you that you wrote this for me too.
    I’m feeling defeated today.
    It’s temporary, but still. Thank you.

  13. Amy in StL says:

    I was just thinking today that I’m so excited for summer to come so I’ll get to see all my softball/float trip friends who’ve never known me on anti-depressants. I’m such a better me than they’ve known. Yay, meds!

  14. That’s a really clever and different way of saying that it’s important to look after yourself, first. Love it.

  15. There’s a whole lotta unhappy in my world today, so thank you! I needed to hear that someone has my back. Leave it to you to be that person. xoxo

  16. At least your friends know you are there for them. It is good to know a friend would give me the pants off her butt, even if they wouldn’t fit. It is the thought that counts!

  17. Hi Moosh, Thanks you so much for your informative piece on ‘Holy Underwear.’ For some reason we ended up discussing Mormon underwear at lunch and, of course, no one believed the person who brought it up. Well, after lucnch we all searched for ‘Mormon underwear’ and I happened to end-up at your site. Very informative especially since it was from someone who actually wears them as part of their faith practice. Since I was at your site, I decided to read a few posts, which I found interesting, funny, insightful, and well-written. Thanks for sharing. Good luck with the upcoming birth of your second child. Mark (an northwesider from Indy who works at that Big Pharma company south of downtown!)

  18. This is lovely. As someone who is prone to shoes that pinch (I am blessed with wide feet – blessed might not be the right word) I know how your blistered foot friend feels.

  19. you give the best virtual hugs. While it might not be directed at me? I might just take it!